(the title of this post was taken from THAT Ol.d Spi.ce commercial)
Is it a wife's job to support her husband and not fight against him? I heard a pastor say once that if the husband's final decision is wrong, she should stand by him (or his decision) and not criticize.
A nurse I worked with refused to 'let' her husband, an unemployed engineer, work at a burger joint for $300 a week. He couldn't find anything else and hated being a 'house husband' (his words). He felt guilty seeing her go off to work everyday while he sat at home. She said no husband of hers would ever take a job flippin' burgers for that lil bit of chump change. She would rather work 16 hour days, 7 days a week. And no, they were not downsizing from their $2800/mth McMansion, selling any of the 3 cars (that all have notes and full coverage), and the kids were not coming out of their $800/mth private preschool/grade school to free up some money. What was he thinking?
"She could be an anchor in stormy seas or she could let him drift onto the rocks.."
She'd rather work like a dog herself to keep up a lifestyle they obviously couldn't afford. She was more concerned about what the neighbors thought if they saw him in uniform at the fast food joint. Besides, he'll come home smellin' like grease everyday. He barely saw her anymore, and when he did, she was too tired to (in no particular order) cook, talk or make love. He was used to being the provider and he wanted to work, no matter what. He wanted to feel 'like a man'.
In this age of I-gotta-degree-or-two-and-he-better-have-a-white-collar-job-too-cause-I-got-standards, would I have a problem with this? Nope, 'cause $300/wk is $1200/mth and that's better than $0 any day of the week. How do I know he won't become the manager/regional manager/v.p. of sales/el presidente/franchisee/or-whatever else comes after that? Has the potential to smell like success. Sure, it'll take a lil' time, but he may have just found his niche, I dunno.
"A woman could be the wind beneath a man's sails or a gale to send him into uncharted waters.."